7 Essential ways to win an argument without losing friends

When it comes to an argument, you always want to look cool and deliver your point across. If you are having an argument with your potential friend, you need to realize first that the argument is worth having. Second, if it is, then you have to remember to stay calm throughout the whole argument.

1. Relax and Stay calm:

During an argument, we usually get anxious or annoyed easily. So, remain cool, and to actually make a valid point you need to stay calm and collected to focus on what they are saying. Lay your hand open and relax to show that you are confident in your body.

2. A good pause:

When we talk back and forth, we usually want the other person to listen to us and acknowledge our point. So, focus more on making a good point and give it a pause to let the other person think. What this does is, it helps your side of the argument to be more willing and right. Even though the other person keeps talking and talking and you may feel that you have lost an argument. Definitely not, it is all about staying calm and actually saying the right things to emphasize your point.

3. Listen Properly:

When they are talking you should listen and pinpoint different words to make them feel that their point is weak. Always try to listen and use their words to make a question out of it, to leave them shaken up. Emphasize your point and be clear in what you say. State the things that bother you in a monotone and emphasize the point that you are confident in saying. Allow them to first understand clearly the issue at hand and take it from there. Even if you feel that sometimes they should understand certain things without you actually having to explain them. You shouldn’t be discouraged and actually say the things that they don’t understand even if it looks petty for the moment. You can add” I don’t want to sound petty but this and this happened because of this specific reason” then go back to talking and actually paying attention to the important words being used.

4. Use proper tone:

People tend to raise their voices and It may come across as arrogant and just a person who yells. No one would want to argue with you if you keep talking and raising your voice and not listening to them. Keep your tone friendly, that when you engage in an argument because that keeps them anxious. Even if they raise their voices, you can quickly remind them and throw them off balance. That may make the other person look weak. It is all about using proper tone and accurate tactics. Allow them to dwell on the topic at hand and emphasize points they feel awkward talking about. Once you show confidence and strongly believe in what you say, it is easy for you to make any point perfect.

5. Don’t get offended easily:

Obviously, people argue because they believe that their point is right. So both of you will counter indirect insult that may hurt you and doesn’t. Your job is to take the high road. Point out their mistakes and tell them that they are clearly not related to the argument and stay calm throughout the process. Laugh it off to look cool and that may come across as you being strong-minded and nothing can easily take you down. Think open-mindedly and actually analyze their point by setting your ego aside, that way you have a higher chance of winning the argument. Even after the argument, you may feel satisfied with your conversation.

Even if the conversation takes a turn and you are not winning, do not give them the satisfaction that you are at the weak end, and keep your head high as if you are not bothered by the point attacking you. This will make the opponent angry and get annoyed easily. That will be your chance to speak and render them speechless.

6. Use humor

Humor is the best way to actually really throw your point across. When you use humor, the argument is taken lightly and the person on the other hand seems relaxed as well. This may give you the advantage of making you look collective and admirable at hand. They will listen to you attentively. Even if you want to throw insults and actually make them feel inferior, your job is to speak with command and exaggerate them in a humorous way to make them realize how silly they are in arguing with you. Analyze every detail and question them back with their own speeches.

7. Actual good counterattacks:

Good Counter attacks cannot take place if you do not listen and actually pay attention to what they say. Emphasize their weak point and make them look like it was stupid to even say in the first place. Use logic and smart answers to talk smoothly. I think being a smooth talker is actually a gift. But we definitely can practice our way up the ladder and be collective and speak our minds out confidently. I think it is all about practicing and talking with a lot of people. This way, you can build your confidence and have a strong mentality. If you are a person who gets offended easily and always thinks you are the victim in every situation. You need to stop giving that power to people. You are not anyone who can easily be affected. Remind yourself daily to love yourself and always take things lightly. It is not the end of the world and also a short life to ponder on negative things.

Be proud of how far you have come and stop comparing yourself with other people because your journey is your journey and your life is based on the decisions that YOU made on daily bases. How would your life be nearly as same as theirs? Always go at your own pace. Hold yourself high and adopt a mindset where you can easily bounce back.

Good ideas, true innovations, you need human interaction, debate, conflicts, and arguments, etc. – Margaret Heffernan.